A Year Older

A year older and hell of a lot more wiser this year. The year has been quite the roller coaster. The highs have been higher than Mount Everest and the lows would put Mariana’s Trench to shame.

The going was pretty good till shit hit the fan. The lockdown. I don’t know how people sound so happy about WFH or want it to continue forever but I surely can’t cope up with it.

Not many people but a few know that I am partially claustrophobic. I never take a window seat on flights (I had avoided flying as long as I could). When I have to spend long time living in hotel rooms, at night, either I would go to rooftop or spend time in the hotel lobby.

Mental health would have taken a beating for many but the conversations around mental health are drowned out by the euphoria around WFH. We all know it is fake but in this situation most would accept it because the alternative is scary.

So being stuck in a room all day has taken its toll. Sure wish we can go back to work. And of course opening up will lead to economy also taking an upswing but that’s a topic for another post.

After the year gone by, nothing in the coming year can get any worse (or maybe there are more nasty surprises round the corner haha)

So here is to positivity, whole lot of optimism and a totally normal next year to me!

Get going

No one is gonna help you.

The ones who do, will always have a motive.

Stop whining. Stop blaming people and circumstances for what you can’t get. Did you give your best? Or rather did you exceeds even your best expectations when going all out to get somewhere?

Stop looking for a Godfather in professional world. You be the Godfather.

Stop looking for an emotional anchor in your personal life. Everyone is looking at you to be an emotional anchor.

Stop saying I will do from tomorrow.

Stop saying the year I wanted to do so many things has already come and I haven’t.

It’s just three days into 2018. There are still 362 days left to achieve what you want (is this a leap year??).

Just get off your butt and get going! Let this be the year!

We always find a way


Last few posts probably had veered towards a darker side. So this post is an ode to our spirit.

We are a resilient lot. When faced with adverse situations, we always find a way out. To all the marketing and advertising people, am not talking Jugaad here.

Whether it is at work, or in relationships… while we may say we have given up and nothing can be done… this brain of ours is constantly whirring away… looking not for a way out, but to figure out how to manage the things… get what we want.

Actually it is not about getting what we want. Very few or none do actually. It is about reaching a solution that is acceptable not just to us but to everyone involved in that problem.

At work, there is stress and pressure. the deadline is fast approaching. All indicators are suggesting that we will not meet the deadline. But we don’t give up.. do we? the mind refuses to give up. And that spirit ensures that there is that one big effort that we all make. We know what is to be done. There is a moment when the various wheels that are moving in our head click together and we pull through. Sure it may not be the best thing to happen (What is best really?) but the fact is that we had to deliver and we did. And it is the best thing because under pressure and against all odds, we delivered. Nobody in this world gets all the time to create perfection and best is a very subjective thing. Like I said, it is a solution that is acceptable to all concerned.

When all seems lost and there is a whole bunch of people saying it can’t happen or it is not possible, that becomes the challenge… a motivation to prove that it can be done.

While at work, it is a combination of people in a team that makes it happen, in personal relationships, it is two individuals deciding (or maybe one) that the relationship has to work.

From a relationship perspective, we are coming to terms with the rapidly changing dynamics. Yes there are pressures being exerted by the environment. By our expectations. By what we see around us. But our core ( that has been formed over ages), still believes that walking away is not the best solution.

Relationship, unlike professional situations where we can always look for another job, require all our efforts to make it work. Two people come together in a relationship. Two strong minds. Conflicts are a given. But there is always a reason when two people are thrown together. And while it has become increasingly easy in the current environment to go different ways, do we do that at the first sign of conflict? Do we walk away just because it is not working out or because the timelines or expectations are not matching? No we don’t. We think it through. We look at common meeting points. We step back to analyse. We work on making it work. We explore all options. We invest time and effort. We spend years and years with a person and it cannot get over in a flash. We make adjustments (some will call it a compromise or sacrifice which is utter load of crap). If we invested in a relationship for so long, we also make the investment of time in finding out what will put everything back on track.

This probably is true to our culture than a western construct. Yes we believe in hedonism but we also believe in fate and destiny that brings two people together.

Whether it is work or a relationship, through the ages we have learnt not to give up. Because as a country, we have been through hard times. We were told we have to work hard to achieve everything in life and giving up was never considered an option. But back then there used to be a sense of resignation to what we did. We said it was our “bhagya” and carried on. But our generation has a different perspective. While it is easy to move on… whether are work or in a relationship, we don’t do so easily. We fight to make it work and when there is absolutely nothing that can be done is when we decide to move on.

We still believe in fate and destiny but now we look at it as a positive. And this post is a tribute to that positivity. 🙂

(Picture courtesy faithfriend.wordpress.com)